You Would Never Let That Happen — the English edition of Tessel ten Zweege’s Dat Zou Jij Nooit Toelaten — is a frank, compassionate guide to recognising emotional and physical abuse, narcissistic dynamics and coercive control in relationships we often still call love.
The companion site offers pre‑orders for the book, sober context on intimate partner violence, and quiet, practical framing for anyone asking whether what they’re living through is okay — and what to do next. Published by This is us Books.
Many of us believe we’d spot toxic love instantly — until the boundary shifts slip past unnoticed.
Drawing on lived experience and careful reporting, the project names patterns that are easy to minimise: love‑bombing and gaslighting, apologies that aren’t really repair, control dressed up as care, and the quiet erosion of consent — whether you’re in the thick of it, supporting someone you love or building healthier norms, this is a place to start.
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